To sex or not to sex

Sheldon: So we multiply 193, minus 21 men before the loss of virginity, so 172 times 0.18 gives us 30.96 sexual partners. Let’s roAund that up to 31.
Penny: Okay, Sheldon, you are so wrong. That is not even close to the real number. I’m gonna need a drink over here.
Amy: This is very interesting. Cultural perceptions are subjective. Penny, to your mind, are you a slut?

No. This is not to say I had 31 sexual partners. Nowhere close to the real number, okay? I just came across so many different opinions in the last days it made me think about it a bit.

It all started when my friend from another country came to visit. You know, she is the one who will always be waffling about all those boys, boyfriends, ex-boyfriends and potential boyfriends you are pretty sure she must be a relationship godess. To the fullest. And just then in one of your conversations she dropped conveniently: "But I didn't sleep with any of those boys. I'm still a virgin." leaving me speechless and staring for a few moments.
Yep, she's been dating boys. Some of them for a few months, some of them for a few years. Never slept with any of them. Does it also cross your mind? That thought? WTF? Well, no fu*k to be honest but the question still quite adequate. When I asked why she refused to have sex she said it was that she didn't want to give those man everything available on her little market. That sounded as a pretty weird concept, something oldschool. But I pretty much know I shouldn't have tried explaining my position by saying that you sometimes sleep with people because you both want to and that's not much more to it. Because I didn't want to hear the answer she had to tell me: "Yes, I noticed. All this deep throat kissing in the streets here. You are pretty much frivolous in relationships in Europe, right?" Gulp. Shit. Are we that much? So I thought I'll look around at my friends, some media and so to give her an answer.

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About the same time I was chatting with a friend of mine who read some statistics about average number of sexual partners here in Czech republic. The statistics said five. My friend thought they surveyed mostly between pre-school children, monks and nuns. Gulp.
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I am not writing this to prove most of my friends are sexually outstanding. I think they are pretty much normal  judging by standarts we most commonly apply. Anyway, another friend of my was questioning this "which date should a girl sleep with you" thing. Sleeping on the first date is mostly considered to be a rather slutty thing to do plus it lowers your chances to ever meet your partner again by 50% at least. Second or third date is more probable and fourth date is like has-to-happen. If not, it will many times be considered as "she probably doesn't want me". Funny but tends to be true as is based on Daily Mail article and survey. I think this do-sth'n'go concept spread really rapidly now turning into have-sex'n'go. Gulp. 
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Just the thing I heard: "I rather sleep with a guy on one of the first days. Why? Jeez, it's obvious - what if I date him for one month and then he just sucks?"
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And other thing I heard: "If they did sleep together? I don't really know but I doubt they didn't. Why? Well, how can you be so obsessed about someone without sleeping with him?"

I guess my friend left with a feeling Europe is the most promiscuous place ever. It didn't really help last evening we went to an aquapark and you know what some couples do in jacuzzi. In this case about three couples and three different jacuzzis.
Also I failed to make a point I was originally heading to - it's just that we've learned to live with our sexuality like inteligent humans - using it for pleasure, not being obsessed or taking it as something extraordinary. When I first tried to talk about it while we sat in a sauna, I was interrupted by my friend saying: "Don't you want to put your towel back up? That man has been staring at your boobs for last ten minutes and by now he looks pretty obsessed."